Sunday, July 08, 2012

A Short List of Harm Caused by Mormonism

This blog post should be read in conjunction with my blog post here and my other blog posts in the top of the table of contents, where I mention all of the good in the Mormon Church. In this post I will point out several reasons why I think Mormonism can often be harmful.

I need to be clear though that I separate the individual Mormon from the LDS Institution. When I speak of Mormonism being harmful I am not talking about average Mormons themselves as individuals. In fact, after reading the posts above it will become clear to the reader that I am aware of not just the goodness in the LDS church, but that there are many ethical Mormons of high character doing good in the world. 

I believe most Mormons are not themselves harmful but are unknowing victims of MormonISM. So to be clear, this list is not an attack in any way on individual Mormons but is a list of the harm caused by the LDS Corporation.

My intent is to both explain why, I personally am not a Cultural Mormon (New Order Mormon) and also to explain the importance of informing the public about all the facts about Mormonism on my blog. This way, investigators can make an informed decision and avoid any unnecessary emotional harm from joining Mormonism without all the information they deserve.

Note: Even though I am not one, I respect Cultural Mormons (New Order Mormons) and do not wish to disparage their position; for many of them stay active in order to be a voice of reason as an informed insider, and/or for the sake of family, career, and social stability. I commend them for their courage and discipline while carrying this out.

The following list is by no means comprehensive. This is a short list of the harm caused by the Mormon Church:

  • The Mormon Church is an insulated group with strict loyalty demands and secret oaths of total obedience and loyalty, combined with voluntary insider policing by members themselves; who socially look down on dissenters from the established rules and dogma. The insulation is so intense, and the unquestioning loyalty and obedience to the Mormon institution is so extreme, that leaving the religion will often cost one their friendships with LDS members; and could cost them their marriage or other romantic relationship with a Mormon, and could even cost them their job or cause their career to suffer. This is especially true if they decide to voice their concerns about LDS doctrine and history with members, and publicly share the information they found with LDS members who often interpret this is an attack on their "testimony;" and will then often retaliate by shunning the person or ignoring them. Leaving will likely cause some Mormons to slander the dissenter's character; as Mormons are trained to only view those who leave their church as angry, sinful, or spiritual weaklings who couldn’t handle the demands of the LDS church. The attitude is always, the dogma can never be wrong and the dissenter can never be right or justified intellectually for their doubts.
  • The Mormon Church in many cases has divided friends and torn apart families with its divisive Horns vs. Halos mentality. This mentality fosters an us against them and or in-group against the out-group attitude, turning loved one's (who deny Mormonism and voice their doubts) as now on the side of "the enemy," resulting in members trying to guilt and shame those who leave into coming back, conforming again, and remaining loyal.
  • The Mormon Church brainwashes (or if you prefer indoctrinates) children labeling them a Mormon as early as one years old. Mormon parents are encouraged to bring their children to the pulpit in sacrament meeting and persuade them to say they know Mormonism is true. In LDS Sunday school classes the kids are pressured to sing songs like “follow the prophet” and “I hope they call me on a mission,” when they are just little kids before they can truly think for themselves. 
  • The Mormon Church damages and seeks to control a person’s psyche by manipulating their need for love and acceptance; and affecting the member’s self-esteem and their degree of loyalty through manipulation and fear using what I call the Shame & Tame Cycle, and subtle indirect threats of being shunned by the community, officially dis-fellowship and/or excommunicated.  

  • The Mormon Church harms young men and women by denying them true freedom and their full potential to grow into independent and unique persons and instead programs them with the “stick” of fear and intimidation and the “carrot” of acceptance and love. The constant barrage of indoctrination from childhood to adulthood and private interview sessions -- where Mormon males, for example, rise up the Mormon ladder of approval and authority by being obedient, submissive, and loyal -- programs the Mormon to depend on the Mormon leaders for their self-esteem. This translates into Mormon youth seeking guidance from the church on their life path as if they were still little children seeking parental direction, thus impeding them from their own true feelings and preferences as they instead put on the Mormon Mask; and do what they have been told is the path to take in life: which is a mission at age 18 (for women age 19) and afterward marriage as soon as possible; and having children right away and starting a family regardless of your own needs, personal dreams, and ambitions. Later on many Mormons realize they have lived an inauthentic life but have put in too much time, money, and social commitments to turn back. 
  • The Mormon Church is sexist in nature presenting women as the means to the Mormon man’s end of exaltation (see D&C 132); as she must be submissive as a future plural wife in the heavens, which in many cases damages the woman's self-esteem as she struggles to accept the eternal principle of polygamy while being in love with one man.
  • The Mormon Church taught a false and racist history of American Indians for over a hundred years. Despite the recent changes, subtle racism will linger in the LDS church until they edit out the racist passages in the Book of Mormon or make official that these are not to be taken as literal skin cursings.
  • The LDS church taught that blacks are born with dark skin because they are born into the lineage of Cain (Cain was cursed with a black skin) because of something they did in the preexistence. The LDS church denied blacks full fellowship until 1978 and as of this writing, still refuses to truly repent and apologize for this racist policy and doctrine. The LDS church also continues to harm unsuspecting African American converts by hiding the former official LDS doctrine that they were considered the seed of Cain.  In 2013 an Ensign article titled Race and the Priesthood, was published on that basically blames the priesthood ban on Brigham Young, and finally repudiated the seed of Cain dogma by stating: "Today, the [Mormon] Church disavows the theories advanced in the past that black skin is a sign of divine disfavor or curse, or that it reflects actions in a premortal life; that mixed-race marriages are a sin; or that blacks or people of any other race or ethnicity are inferior in any way to anyone else. Church leaders today unequivocally condemn all racism, past and present, in any form." Yet one wonders why this was done at a time when the LDS Corporation was losing massive amounts of members and not before? 
  • In case the above didn't sink in, the LDS religion effectively taught that two entire ethnic groups have dark skin because of a cursing from God for over a hundred years! And the Book of Mormon is still doctrine that teaches that God punished the wicked Native Americans with a curse of dark skin so that they wouldn't be enticing to the good and white Native Americans. The church has made no official statement on these verses. The Mormon Church also relegates an entire gender (females) to second class status in the church; if that is not extremely hurtful and harmful I don’t know what would be.
  • The Mormon Church is a branch from the same tree that produced the branch called FLDS. In other words, “the apple doesn’t fall from the tree.”
  • The Mormon Church is responsible for all the modern Mormon polygamy which is the true legacy and byproduct of Joseph Smith’s adulterous lifestyle.
  • The Mormon Church harms people by rejecting the scientific method and critical thinking when it conflicts with Mormon dogma. Since Mormons are trained to rely more on feelings than facts when it comes to deciphering the truths of reality (such as seeking a special feeling about the Book of Mormon instead of studying it's historical veracity) this sets them up to be conned by others who appeal to emotions. As a result Utah is known as the scam capitol of the world. 
  • The Mormon Church engages in distorting and omitting the facts and whitewashing history to create a polished image; while impeding the pursuit of truth by threatening scholars from being too truthful; thus betraying the trust of members who later learn the truth through their own study of history books they were told not to read. As well as lying and deceiving the public about its true history and doctrines, starting as early as 1835 (when it published as scripture a denial of polygamy being practiced in the church) when in fact it was. Mormon apologists make excuses for this blatant public lie but their excuses fall flat. What is the result of being guilty of false advertising, deception, and misrepresentation? People being deceived and making uninformed choices to join Mormonism and later suffering emotional turmoil when they finally learn the truth for themselves. This often makes it very difficult for the former Mormon to learn to trust people or organizations ever again. The sense of betrayal can often harm the person's psyche for years making it difficult for the person to connect with others and join groups for support. It often takes psychological counselling to understand what they went through in order to heal over time by understanding the psychology and sociology of their experience. The healing process often takes years and as a result the person loses out on many opportunities and experiences; as they instead have to deal with the healing process, and deprogramming their mind and body of all the LDS indoctrination and social conditioning. Then they have to discover their true authentic-self, their real preferences, and their chosen mission or direction to take in life. They also have to cope with having their reality ripped from them and have to struggle to form a new worldview. All this suffering and set-backs from one's true "callings" in life, could have been avoided if the Mormon Church were honest in all their dealings. But the LDS institution's primary objective is to spread Mormon ideas into tithe payer's heads, and if full-disclosure would impede profit and growth it will not be honest. Right now the LDS Corporation is doing just enough to inoculate the membership with the essays on, but full disclosure is far from offered.
  • The Mormon Church requires that the Mormon garments -- with symbols on them reminding the person wearing them of the strict loyalty oaths they made in the LDS temple -- be worn night and day, which in my opinion are subtle mind control devices.
  • The Mormon Church has temple rituals that use mind control tactics. Just listen to the entire Mormon endowment ceremony online and study the words and rituals used and decide for yourself.
  • The Mormon Church promotes unhealthy attitudes about human sexuality. A male leader even asks young men as young as twelve years old, behind closed doors with no other adults present, if they masturbate; and then shaming the young man as being "unworthy" if he says he does. See the videos:
 (Episode 3) Mormon Sexual Repression - Alone with the Bishop & Masturbation in Marriage


Mormon Bishop defends sexual questions to 8-year-old when confronted by dad
  • The Mormon Church sets up impossible demands: ranging from never drinking coffee to never criticizing church leaders even if the criticism is true (as Dallan Oaks said 2007 on PBS); and then shames the member into submission whenever they inevitably fail to meet the impossible demands. This Shame & Tame cycle denies people's innate fallibility, and irrationally equates the person's mistake with their status of "worthiness" in the eyes of judgmental LDS leaders. The term "unworthy" in Mormonism implies a completely "bad person," as if the person's entire character has been stained for failing to obey a Mormon rule. This is believed to render the person unworthy of unconditional love and acceptance by the institution unless they submit to the leaders demands, and never make the mistake again or risk further shaming, punishment, and/or shunning (disfellowship or excommunication). On top of that, since there is no official list of all the moral rules (that I am aware of), Mormons are never assured of what is or isn't an LDS "sin," thus some members get caught in the shame and time cycle endlessly, visiting their leader's office to unburden themselves of things they are not certain must be repented of directly to an LDS male leader. This creates unhealthy stress, low self-esteem, and a kind of childish dependence where even grown men will seek the approval of another grown man as if they are kids again seeking parental approval. Unlike other Christian churches that preach grace, Mormonism teaches that the person must constantly live up to the demands of the LDS institution, resulting in a membership that is never truly assured of their status in the eyes of God; for there are too many LDS rules and they are too fallible to live up to all the expectations; so they continue to be like hamsters on a spin wheel chasing the carrot of acceptance dangling from a string in front of them; while they spin their wheels in a constant cycle of feeling shame and seeking approval. This constant cycle of shaming and taming perpetuates a very self downing and judgmental culture that never feels worthy of self-acceptance; and simultaneously produces some Mormons who start to feel morally superior and holier than other's outside the "only true Mormon Church." Mormons are always seeking approval from the men in charge; and of course that approval only comes from total submission to Mormonism resulting in a kind of stockholm syndrome.
  • The Mormon Church encourages young men to go on missions to areas that are often a risk to their health and safety; and in the MTC they are subjected to mind control tactics where many suffer emotional issues such as anxiety, shame, and low self-esteem, before they fully give themselves over psychologically to Mormonism.
  • The Mormon Church perpetuates an anti-intellectual environment resulting in a large number of members who rely on emotions instead of critical thinking, making them susceptible to scams and con-artists.
  • The Mormon Church has no checks and balances, as it functions as an artificial theocracy claiming to be the ultimate pipeline to deity; when in reality it is spreading the limited perspective and prejudices of old white men living in Utah who act like the Wizards of Oz. By claiming to be the only mouthpiece of God the Mormon Church is claiming to act under the authority of God, thus anything it does is claimed to be God's will; which can be very harmful if in fact the particular Mormon claim or action is not God's will.


Anonymous said...

You forgot political brainwashing... Even though the church claims to not take a political stance, the leaders are almost exclusively republican, and encourage members to share republican beliefs. Most members I know tend to shame any democratic thoughts, and verbally beat down anyone who opposes the republican system/beliefs

William Kempton said...

"Politically, Mormons are more conservative compared with the general public, the [pew] survey finds. Seventy-four percent of Mormons surveyed say they lean toward the Republican party, and 66 percent describe themselves as conservatives, much higher than the national average of 37 percent. ..." Source: ; July, 2012.

Anonymous said...

I was once interviewed by a Mormon bishop who asked me to disclose my annual gross income and then demanded that I pay my 10% tithing based on that amount. He even demanded that I pay tithing arrearages so that I would be "worthy" to attend the temple. When I told him I could not come up with the money, he took away my temple recommend and offered to return it when I brought in the cash. What a scam!

Anonymous said...

They forgot to mention that Satan is your brother

William Kempton said...

Yes, Mormons teach that Satan is our spirit brother. They also teach that Jesus and Satan are brothers. This is because in Mormon Doctrine we are all literal sons and daughters of God the Father and God the Mother (Heavenly Mother). In traditional Christian doctrine, God created all things, including Satan. Thus Jesus and Satan are not brothers, for Jesus as God created Satan who then turned on God.

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