Wednesday, December 13, 2006

Top 10 Reasons I'm happier now as a non-Mormon

10. Instead of giving 10% of my income to the LDS church that is used to build highly expensive buildings where imaginary dead people are dunked in H-2-O -- and everyone gets together and chants giving secret handshakes -- I give my money to those who really need it like to a charity. Helping others in need instead of playing make-believe makes me happy.

9. I’m no longer allowing myself to be indoctrinated while singing songs like "praise to the man."

8. I no longer feel like I’m better than everyone else when I walk into a room. I no longer engage in polarized thinking, “us Mormons vs. the World.” I feel more at one with humanity and interconnected to all of life. I'm less judgmental, more accepting of others, more tolerant, and free!

7. I think like a grown up and I never could get myself to engage in childish dependency void of individualism, looking with star-struck eyes to the commands of an 80 year old man in Utah whom I’ve never met before; who I’m supposed to have tell me what to think and do in life. I now think freely reading any kind of book I want. I'm free to form my own philosophies based on research and reason. I have the joy of thinking for myself.

6. I can look forward to having a normal wedding without wearing a ridiculous hat and green apron in front of my wife-to-be trying not to laugh because you both look like a “baker” for Halloween. I can actually look normal and all of our non-Mormon friends and family can participate in the wedding instead of rejecting them. Families can bring joy so why segregate them?

5. I no longer have to keep shoving my doubts in the back of my head but can embrace the evidence, the truth, and reality without fear. I can free my mind!

4. I can now actually be myself and not feel like a Mormon might be nearby asking to make sure I’m behaving as a proper Mormon i.e. “are you wearing your garments brother so and so?”

3. I can have a cup of coffee, a glass of tea, or a beer in moderation (1 Tim. 5:23) if I want to without fear God will destroy me since “wine maketh glad the heart of man” (Psalm 104:15; Eccl. 10:19); after all didn’t Jehovah himself even command one group to drink wine in the Bible (see Jeremiah 35:1-2)? I have the freedom to drink responsibly if I so choose.

2. I am free of the herd mentality at church, where critical thinking and truly open discussion is socially forbidden; as you are to go and graze with the herd only reinforcing the groupthink. I am like a prisoner set free.

1. And the number one reason I’m happy out of Mormonism is I don't have to wear secret-underwear anymore. Free of those superstitious long johns from the 19th century I can be normal, and wear black or blue boxers if I want, and not be embarrassed to get dressed in the Gym in fear of others seeing the Masonic markings stitched on my chest. I don’t have to be afraid of going to the Terrestrial Kingdom because someone accidentally saw my Holy Undies. I avoid sweating profusely unnecessarily from wearing superstitious magic underwear in the summer. Now I only wear one T-shirt in the summer like a normal person.

My Psychological Journey in Brief

I went from thinking:

I’m afraid to leave.
I want to be a Mormon for sociocultural reasons.
I have to be Mormon, it’s all I know.
I don’t know where else to go for social support?
I ought to out of loyalty to family and friends; it’s tradition!

To eventually saying to myself:

I can’t imagine remaining in the LDS church.
I feel so free to learn new things and meet new people.
There are so many other social opportunities.
True friends and family will accept me and my resignation.

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